Everything to Share, Nothing to Prove
"Everything to Share, Nothing to Prove"
I heard this quote from comedian/writer Sara Pascoe on Kirsty Young's "Young Again" podcast recently, and it's stuck with me.
As someone who regularly shares social media advice via DMs or email, I've noticed an interesting pattern: sometimes it's embraced with open arms, other times it's politely ignored or disregarded entirely. Either is fine by me.
For a chronic approval-seeker like me, this used to feel like rejection. I'd find myself sometimes trying to "prove" my expertise or second-guessing whether I actually know what the heck I'm talking about.
Sara's philosophy shifts things.
When I share from a place of generosity rather than validation-seeking, two powerful things happen:
1) I feel lighter, more confident in my delivery
2) The advice lands differently - without the enormous weight of my need for approval
I've rarely been one to hoard my opinions! But when sharing simply comes from a point of helpfulness rather than to prove something, people can actually feel the difference.
Your network isn't looking for a catalogue of expertise-proving content. They're looking for real moments, helpful insights, and that good old authentic connection.
My best performing content has never been about showcasing how brilliant I am (spoiler: I'm sometimes not). It's been about sharing what I've learned along the way.
